DR. EVE ANSWERS:
Rules have changed , both societally and for you personally. Of course you are running scared as well as running curious. The last time you dated life was very different: today women are considered cool if they love sex, cool if they call a man who they fancy, cool if they refuse a guy they do not fancy. So you have to get in touch with your confidence and your cool factor.
Learning to be a bold 21st century woman carries responsibilities , however. You need to feel as cool about yourself as you act. You need to feel comfortable in your body and you need to be sexually informed and in charge of your sexual health.
So best to go for a HIV/STI screening test now as knowing your status is most important to begin a healthy sexual life. Buy condoms and lubricant and keep some in your bag, your car and your bedroom.
Now how to get over that naked moment- the moment when you have to get undressed for a new man- or perhaps it will be a woman – you have freedom to be yourself now. Getting healthy is imperative to being sexual with a new person. Not weight loss (even though that will happen as you live a healthier life) but gaining confidence in your own body will make it so much easier to get naked those first few times. Sleep naked to get used to your own nakedness, keep admiring yourself in a mirror, walk around naked.
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